Thursday, September 1, 2016

Chapter 1- The Journey to Motherhood: August was National Breastfeeding Month

As the title says, August was National Breastfeeding Month. I was hoping to get a post in to share my journey before August ended, but I did not quite make the deadline. :-) Nevertheless, I still figured I would write about it anyways. So here is the short and sweet of my breastfeeding journey.

Most of you are aware that Beans was born early (click here to read about her birth). It is common for preemies to struggle with breastfeeding. Beans was no exception. The first time she latched I was brought to tears. One, I was shocked by the sensation I felt. It didn't hurt me per se, but it didn't feel great. Lol! Two, I was brought to tears because I was so happy that my 2-week old preemie had latch. The latch was short lived but we practice everyday while she was in the NICU.



However, once we got home we struggled. I couldn't get her to latch, so I made her bottles. Plus she was on a special formula to help her gain weight. I joined a Facebook group that catered to preemie moms wanting to breastfeed. With their advice and the advice of my friends/family who breastfed, Beans and I successfully got a rhythm once we made it past her original due date... And we never looked back.

The journey of breastfeeding has not been easy. It takes dedication and patience. However, it has been rewarding for me. We are still going strong. 14 months to be exact. At one point I thought I was going to give up breastfeeding her, but she is not ready to wean.



Overall, I have enjoyed the journey. I will miss our quiet times together when she does finally wean. But I will be glad to have my boobs back!  

What about you? Did you breastfeed? What was your experience?

Xoxo,

Nisia Skyy

Tuesday, August 23, 2016

Misc Chapter- Time for some FOOTBALL!!!!

I love the month of August. The kids are back in school (I don't know about that life yet), summer is starting to wind up, and football is coming back!! I watched a preseason NFL game last Sunday, and I was in heaven! If any of you have been following my posts, then you are aware of my L-O-V-E for the sport of football. I am hoping that Beans will be able to fit her Falcons onesie. Lol!



But before I get I go to deep with my love affair with football. Can we talk about the 2016 Olympics?! They were so amazing! I swear every time I watch the Olympics I think I can train for the 100m and 200m, and be the best out there! Lol! Oh and the #blackgirlmagic was on point!! Maybe I will push Beans to partake in a sport and become a great Olympian; right after she cures cancer. Hey, a mama can dream big for her child... can't she?





Okay, so back to football! I am believing that the Falcons are going to win it all this year. I know that last year was not a great year. We started off strong and then we fell off. It was quite embarrassing. Especially when we were winning... It is something about that fourth quarter. It is almost as if we forget that we are still in the game. Smh... But I love them. And you guys already know who I will be rooting for in college football. I am hoping that I can convert some of you to a winning team! Lol!



On a side note... I am thinking of incorporating some additional entries. So be on the lookout for some new content.

Who are guys going to be rooting for this football season??

Xoxo,

Nisia Skyy

Monday, August 15, 2016

Chapter 2: Pursuing Passions- Facing Reality

Death has a way of putting things in perspective, and forcing us to face reality. We are all on borrowed time. However, it is different when know you will die. What if you knew you only had a few hours, days, months or years to live? Would you go after those dreams you been talking about? Would you start that business? Would reach out to that loved one that hurt you and forgive them? Would you slap your mama for a million dollars? Gotcha! Just wanted to lighten it up a bit. But you get my point.



This past weekend I went to visit my aunt in Michigan. She stays in a beautiful suburb outside of Detroit; which by the way Detroit is an awesome place. The place she stays in is immaculate. I guess for the amount of money it costs to stay there, it should be nothing short of amazing. But she is dying. She has been placed on hospice, and this visit was to see her before goes on to the other side. It also was an opportunity for her to meet my daughter, her great niece. Despite the somberness of the trip, it was overall an awesome trip. I got to meet to meet family that I have never meet before, and spend time with one of my friends from school.

The hardest part of the trip was saying goodbye. I am so used to saying someone, "I will see you again". However, that phrase and those phrases similar to it escaped me. I fought back tears as I leaned over to kiss her. Because I knew that I would not see her again. I don't have the luxury of staying up there and spending time with her. I live thousands of miles away. The reality of the situation is I won't see her again. At least not on this side of heaven.

Can I share with you what I learned this weekend from my aunt's situation?

1) Take care of your temple (body). Love it and nourish. My aunt said to me that the body is a wonderful thing. It functions so well on its own, but when it is out of whack. Boy it is out of whack.

2) Live out your dreams. Take all the baby steps you need to take to reach your dream, but every day strive towards your dreams. Turn those dreams into reality.

3) Cherish every moment. Make memories with your loved ones. Stop waiting for the "perfect" moment to live. Just do it.

4) Prioritize what matters most. Spend time with those who matter the most. For my friends who work 24/7 and grinding to make that paper. Do so. But don't forgot those who the matter the most. It is those who matter to you, that will be there for you in the end. Don't push them away.

5) Forgive. Let any and all anger go. Free yourself of hurt from others, and from the things that you cannot change. Being angry and bitter are choices. Choose to be joyful. Choose to be happy. Choose to be free.

My aunt is strong woman. I don't see fear in her eyes, but woman facing her reality. She spent the weekend giving orders, making sure her house was clean for company and making jokes. She is pretty amazing... 




Xoxo,

Nisia Skyy

P.S. I did not make the praise and worship team. But NOT because your girl could not sing! Praise Jesus for that. Lol! I got to work on those nerves. :-)

Monday, August 8, 2016

Chapter 2: Pursuing Passions- Facing Your Fear(s)

Hey everyone! I hope your day has been amazing. Even if your day was not as you planned, remember that your life could be so much worse. I had to tell myself that a few times today. Today was definitely not my day, and not because it was Monday. It was not a horrible day, by any means. It was just one of those days.

Any way, last week I faced one of my fears. I stepped out and auditioned for my church's praise and worship team. My nerves were on 10!!! But I did it... I stepped out and confronted my fear. I do not profess to be the best singer, but I am definitely able to hold a note or two. If I had to give a honest assessment of my audition, I am not sure I can confidentially say I did my best. My nerves were bad. But again... I stepped out and confronted my fear.



One reason I was nervous, was because I was singing a genre of music that I am not accustomed to. My church sings contemporary christian music, and I have a true gospel background. In my mind it is the equivalent of singing R&B, but then switching to country music. It is just different. Another reason I was nervous, was because I have not sang in years. I used to take vocal lessons, but I stopped as my life got busy. So I was a tad rusty. Finally, my nerves were on 10 because I had a week to get my life together. In the midst of the rehearsing (or the lack thereof), I had to take care of Beans, do an online training, and all the other life moments that come with being a wife and a mother.



But I did it, and for that I give myself a gold star. Oftentimes, we get in our own way and do not turn our dreams into reality. I have missed out on a few opportunities, because fear has paralyzed me. Fear of failure is always present, but I have a fear of being successful. It is really self sabotaging. As a Christian, I am aware that God has not given me a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind (II Tim. 1:7; emphasis mine). The latter is what I struggle with. In my mind I create several "what if" scenarios. By the time I have finished going through the good, bad and the ugly, my dream has shattered into a million pieces.

But faith without works is considered dead, and without faith it is impossible to please God (James 2:17; Hebrews 11:6). So what is a girl to do? This girl auditions for the praise team. If I make it, cool. If I don't make, it is still cool. This girl writes a NYT best selling novel (speaking it into existence). But what if it doesn't? That is okay, because I can officially say that I am an author. Basically, no matter the outcome, it is still all good. God is still faithful and I am still blessed. All I have to do is face my fear.

How has fear paralyzed you? What are you going to do face your fears?

Xoxo,

Nisia Skyy

P.S. Thanks Peanut's mama for this week's posts. You are the real MVP!

P.P.S. I will know later in the week if I made the team or not. I will let you all know either way, because I know you want to know. Lol :-)

Monday, August 1, 2016

Chapter 3: Married Life- Don't Let Hollywood get you Divorced

This October my husband and I will celebrate five years of marriage. In today's society making it this long is a blessing. It seems as if celebrities and non celebrities alike don't seem to be lasting the first two years. Some notable celebrities have made it 72 days...




Look marriage is not for the weak at heart. It takes work, wisdom, patience and perseverance. Yes, love is a key component. But love does not pay bills. The creditors will not accept your love as payment. You are going to have work on making your marriage work, with someone who WANTS to work with you. There will be times you are going to look at your spouse as if they have two talking heads, and you are trying to decide which one to chop off first. You should want a partner that can weather the storm with you, because if you live long enough life will happen. I don't profess to have any keys to making a marriage last. I have not been married long enough, but I am thankful for the positive examples I have around me that encourage me to keep pushing forward.



Here are a few nuggets I have learned along the way:

1) Stop comparing your relationship to others. Your marriage will be different from your parents, friends and associates. What works for y'all, may not work for others. As long as no one is hurting the other person, your marriage should be fine.

2) Along the same lines, be mindful of who you share your business with. That includes family, best friends, and all those in between. If you must talk someone and cannot find a good marriage counselor, then I highly recommend talking with someone who has good sense. Someone who actually LOVES and LIKES the person that they are married to. Stay away from your single friends, bitter married folks and bitter divorced folks. Very far!

3) Prior to getting married, vet the person you are going to marry. Learn from the recent woes of our beloved Rudy. Smh... Take the time to get to know someone before making such a huge undertaking. Do not ignore the red flags. A person is not going to all of sudden change because you exchange vows. If he is controlling now, he will continue to control after you get married. If she is disrespecting you now, it will only get worse after the vows.



4) Finally, do not let what you see in the movies or on television dictate your relationship. Real life doesn't always play out the way we see on the screen.

Do you agree with any of the listed nuggets? What have you learned along the way? Feel free to share in the comments.



Xoxo,

Nisia Skyy


Monday, July 25, 2016

Chapter 2: Pursing Passions- Diving in Head First

Happy Monday everyone! I hope you all have had an amazing day and weekend. I had a great weekend. Matter of fact after attending my church for the past six years, my husband and I finally finished our church's Growth Track plan. The Growth Track is a 4 week class that helps to introduce the church's philosophy and structure. It also helps to identify your spiritual gifts; with the hope of helping discover your purpose. Since having Beans, I have been on a quest to discover my purpose, and what can I do to help leave my mark on this Earth.

One of the things, I have come to realize is that I will start something and not finish. I will be so excited about my new venture or idea. I will get things in motion and start working toward the goal. However, midway through the fire begins to fizzle and then I stop. For the life of me, I cannot figure out why I can't get out of my own way. Why I am afraid of committing to completing a task? I think some of the reservations deal with not wanting to put myself out there for anyone's opinion, embarrassment if I fail at the task, and completely missing the mark.

For example, I have been working on my novel for the past four years now. I know that some great novels have been birthed after years of working on them. But I feel like I should done by now. Then I read how hard it is to get published, how hard it is to market, how hard it is to get people to support you, etc. The list can go on. And like that. I have talked myself out of completing the task. I have allowed my mind to go into a negative space and accepted defeat but I haven't even go out to battle.

I go through the same steps of: 1) excitement; 2) researching said passion project (still excited); 3) start working on said work project (still excited); 4) do some more research- start seeing negative reviews, articles, etc. (excitement starts to dwindle); 5) "something" happens and now I am distracted; 6) stop working on project. It is a vicious cycle. I have been blessed to witness some of my close friends become successful. I know the obstacles they have overcame. I see the hard work they have put in to get to where they are now. Key word: hard work. They never stopped despite the obstacles they faced along the way. I mean some did. But they picked back up the pieces and kept going.



But I think I owe it to myself to keep pushing... Keep discovering and learning. First, I am going to finish my novel and then I am going to go get active in my church. I will share with you all after next week what ministry I will be joining. :)

Have any of you ever felt this way? How did you overcome?

Xoxo,

Nisia Skyy



Monday, July 18, 2016

Chapter 1: The Journey to Motherhood: Beans Turns 1!

Hey everyone! I hope you all had a wonderful Monday! Last month was an exciting month for my little family. It was my husband's first Father's Day and it was Bean's first birthday!! June has never been my favorite month (if such a thing exists). It usually is a blah month, but of course this year was different.

For Father's Day we took our first real family vacation. We went to the beautiful Orlando and had an amazing time. I got to take Beans by my law school, the beach and even got to try some new restaurants. It was definitely what the doctor ordered. Then when we got back it was time to finish preparing for Bean's first birthday celebration!





This year her birthday fell on the weekend; which made it perfect for planning purposes. On the day of her birthday, my sister's godparents (who I claim as my own), came down to dedicate her back to the Lord. We held her dedication at our home and invited close family to share in the moment.
After her dedication was over, it was time to get the venue and set up for the pool party.

We decided to have her party indoors at the Y. June in the South is quite hot, and I refuse to be outside in such ungodly heat. But you know what happened? Her party was rained out for almost two hours, because a random thunderstorm rolled through! I could not believe it!! Then some of the food for her party was not ready at the time promised. So I had about 10 hungry and bored children looking at me. Smh...




But as quickly as the rain came, it went as quickly. The rest of the food came, the kids finally got in the pool and everyone had a great time. Oh and before I forget, her cupcakes came out great!! I did not make the key lime cupcakes as planned. I did not feel like making them, and ended up doing yellow and chocolate cupcakes. That was in addition to my red velvet cupcakes and strawberry cupcakes.









Overall, her party turned out great. I did not get as many pictures of the decor as I would have liked, but that is okay. I got plenty of her and she looked liked she had a ball! Cannot wait to for her second birthday! Lol!

Xoxo

Nisia Skyy